Sex without foreplay? Women don’t reach orgasm. The expert’s remedies: “Masturbation is very important”

Time and tastes on the matter make the difference: a dildo (even in the heated version for menopausal women) and a rehabilitation program can bring pleasure at any age

ROME – Sex in the age of social media is not all roses and flowers, on the contrary. The idea of speed, of ‘hit and run’ consumption, especially in the younger population, does not allow for complete and satisfying sexual relations. Many young women don’t reach orgasm becausetheir vagina is not lubricated enough and the fault lies in practically non-existent foreplay and they often don’t say it, they adapt or think that sex is like that. But even today these discussions remain ‘uncomfortable’ and silent even within the couple. Time and tastes in matters of sex make the difference: a dildo (even in the heated version for menopausal women) and a rehabilitation process can bring pleasure at any age and even after perhaps health problems .

ORGASM THIS STRANGER

But isn’t it also because we don’t have much sex? “Even a little would be enough but ‘done well'”. Jokingly but also worriedly admitsthe midwife Nicoletta Murgia Mancini who also helps women in this path of awareness, at any age. Because, this is the interesting note, it is not older women who have sexual taboos, but often young women. “Often it doesn’t even happen in a small way and it’s done badly. Today’s society and social media don’t help. In their stories, my patients highlight that the problems are ‘borne’ by both partners. In every case the female figure emerges as the most enterprising. And this fact is experienced badly by men. It is no coincidence that problems such as performance anxiety emerge also because the social expectation is now very high it is represented as fast and practical. This is why when these models are proposed it is difficult to achieve pleasure. It is right to recover the right amount of time that partners must dedicate to foreplay. The gap in this case is important I advise those who are reading us to give themselves the right time to recover intimacy and achieve pleasure.”

MASTURBATING…THE ROAD TO PLEASURE

“It is very important – underlines Murgia Mancini – to understand what we like, in what form and speed and type of ‘touch’. Only in this way does the approach to the other become consequential. Masturbation is very important because it allows us to have a greater flow of blood into the genitals and therefore into the pelvic floor, thus increasing the degree of sensitivity and pleasure, yes… it is recommended masturbating. This is also a cuddle for us.”

 THE RETOUCHES FOR A YOUNGER VAGINA

“Recently – adds the midwife – a particular method has been developed which allows hyaluronic acid to be insufflated into the vagina which, combined with oxygen, gives immediate well-being to the woman. This is useful in significant atrophy, in cases of vulvodynia and also helps to quell chronic pain. The protocol lasts between 6 and 10 sessions. There are also other local therapies that do not exclude rehabilitation which must be continued in the long term of the patient, that is, not paid by the national health service”. And not only that: “By acting with surgery or small injections of hyaluronic acid, the vagina certainly benefits aesthetically. The doubt remains whether these actions have any effective consequences in terms of health. And the number of women who request them obviously in the sector private is small”. In short, aesthetic medicine is also done from the waist down.

‘SEX TOYS’: HYPERREALISTIC OR HEATED, DILATORS USEFUL